Hi, I am Sharla Macy, LMFT. I am a proud Level 3 Gottman Trained Therapist. The Gottman’s research provides principles and a “blueprint” for building relationships and marriages that thrive. I appreciate the many resources we have to refer to in our work together.

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The Gottman Method is based on 40 years of evidence-based research at the University of Washington by Drs. John and Julie Gottman and the Gottman Institute. The Gottman Method assists couples in assessment of strengths through the Relationship Checkup and then works on those challenges. Couples I have had the pleasure of  working with are amazed at the growth and increased skill in intimacy, understanding, conflict, and communication. We work through the toughest problems. Together we increase empowerment toward  lives of  shared meaning and purpose.

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About the Gottmans: https://www.gottman.com/about/john-julie-gottman/

You Tube of Making Relationships Work https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLXX8wzvT7c

A great podcast interview was given by Brene’ Brown and The Gottmans.


This Gottman Method  is described here:

“The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.”

The Sound Relationship House: The Sound Relationship House displays the areas of the relationship. This includes the pillars of trust and commitment. The Friendship and Intimacy scales include Love Maps, Fondness and Admiration, Turning Toward, and The Positive Perspective.

The Conflict Scales are best-approached when friendship and intimacy are strong. Learning to have a soft start-up, increased empathy, openness to influence, compromise and an ability to solve the “solvable” problem is the goal. The top of the Sound Relationship House includes Making Life Dreams and Creating Shared Meaning.

We will evaluate your strengths and challenges and define the work needed to make your marriage work and thrive!

Seven Principles: for Making Marriage Work

Seven Principles is a description of  their work with over 3,000 couples.  It is the culmination of Dr. John Gottman’s lifelong work: an overview of the skills that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy is offered through my  private sessions, retreats and workshops for couples.

Emotion Coaching: The Heart of Parenting: I offer private and groups based on this work to increase understanding, empathy and greater connection between parents and children.

For Business Teams: I have adapted the Gottman’s Method to build relationships for business teams.

Additional Resources from the Gottmans frequently Recommended:

Eight Dates

What Makes Love Last

And Baby Makes Three.

More Resources Can Be Found for Couples and Families through the Gottman Institute Gottman.com